Trust

(yup I stole this from my one on the board)

(Last post july: Yee Gads!!!. I suck)



Trust is a very interesting thing.

I was talking to someone the other week. I said all lightheartedly "Don't you trust me?" and they said "No, but I don't trust anyone".

And that made me feel a bit.... shocked, offended, indignant, because frankly, I am a trustworthy person. Why wouldn't they trust me? They assured me it wasn't me, that they don't even trust their parents. I'm like What the? (I've met their parents and family, and hell, I'd trust them and I don't even know them well).

Which got me thinking of the possibility of different types of trusts out there.

I was moaning I bit to my mum about the conversation, and she then accused me of not trusting people.

And I said: But the thing is, I trust people to BE WHO THEY ARE.

For example. I don't trust a Lion to be a Kitten. Or a wolf to be a sheep. Or a rottweiler with the baby. A paedophile with a young child.
I trust a Lion to be a lion, a wolf/dog to be a predator etc.

Don't trust people to do things/ be things that they are incapable of doing/being.

If you get involved with someone who you know has an eye for the ladies/cheats, then trust that he has an eye for the ladies. Don't trust that he will be faithful.
(Like in the movie Frida.)

It doesn't mean that you won't get hurt? but maybe you will less.

So, material things: I could tell my mum my PIN (i know hers, and use her card if she asks me to by something for her).

I am currently lending a hand to a friend. I have paid for a few things like their insurance, food, fuel etc. Adding up to about I probably don't want to think.

I expect to be paid back, and I trust that I will eventually. I would not give them my card details.

I do I suppose have a pre-determined limit. I am not sure what that amount is, but I'll know when I reach it.

As to those deepest darkest secrets.

I have been accused of being "still waters run deep". (I don't know if that is relevant).

I have been asked to take people "on a walk through my castle".
Apparently I have a lot of barriers up, to prevent being hurt, but thinking right now, I don't know really if that is the case. As I am getting older, things of the past really have no baring on me today, and if they do then I tell, because i do believe that things are better out in the open, all cards on the table so to speak.
That is ok with perhaps the beginning of possible relationships, but just friends? aquaintances. No I wouldn't tell, but is that becuase I don't trust, or perhaps it is because it might be none of their business.?

While I may choose to only trust my close friends with secrets, and mum with my PIN... what about the hobblings, and the www?
I wouldn't give you my PIN. Sorry guys!

But my deepest, darkest secrets? Well, some of you have read my blog ( I know i don't update it often. I suck. )
Some of my blog is very personal.
I don't mind telling things here.

But that's because on the net, the trust is supported by anonymity.

So, to summarise:

Trust appropriately.
Trust changes depending on material/emotional.
Trust can be affected by knowing someone well vs anonymity.